14 Things That You Are Doing to Show Your Kids You Love Them

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Today while running around doing errands with my two little boys, I promised my three-year-old that we could go to Chick-Fil-A for lunch since he was such a good boy for me and helping me with his baby brother (honestly, this lunch trip was just as much of a treat for me as it was for him). While sitting in my booth and watching my boys play in the play area, I couldn’t help but overhear a young mother talking to an older woman, presumably her mom, about her two rambunctious boys.  She was relating an experience she’d had at the swimming pool while she was wrestling her two boys back into their clothes. As she struggled to reign her boys in, she was watching another mother get her 4 children, all 6 and under, dressed and ready to leave in such a calm and orderly manner.  I could tell that even though she was trying to tell this story in a bit of a light mood, she was also being a little hard on herself as well.

          As I observed this woman’s confession, I thought to myself, How many times have I found myself in this mother’s shoes, comparing myself to another mother/parent and found myself lacking? By a show of hands (and I dare you to raise yours right now as you read this in the coffee shop – that would be awesome), how many of you, my dear readers, have felt this way as well? I know that I’m not the only one raising my hand. I also recognize that I may not be the only person who understands just how toxic this behavior is to you as a person as well as those around you who love you. We are constantly looking for ways to help ourselves improve in so many different aspects of our lives.  While it is good to keep learning and improving through our observations of others, the only person that you should really compare yourself to is your past self.  

         One of the most popular places I have seen where we love to look for tips on helping us be a better person today is Pinterest.  While I love Pinterest (almost too much), I also know that if you aren’t careful, you can poison your view of who you are as a parent.  While browsing around, I have passed several posts on Pinterest that focus on things that we can do to show our love to our children. In my browsing, several times I’ve clicked on these posts thinking about saving them in my archives but then I paused for a brief thought.  Yes, it’s nice to get new ideas to change things up but what we really need is to be nicer to ourselves. We need to try harder to focus more on what we are already doing and not focus so much on what we aren’t doing or can do better. In fact, maybe make a list of sorts. You’ll quickly realize that the things you are doing can easily outweigh the things you aren’t doing. Don’t take my word for it, however. Try it yourself. To help you out, here is my list of things that you are ALREADY doing to show your love for your children.

  • You woke your kids up so they wouldn’t be late for school.

  • You fed your kids breakfast (yes, cereal and milk counts).

  • You took your kids to school, maybe even got them there on time.

  • You went to the grocery store to get food for your family.

  • You put your baby down for a nap.

  • You put laundry in the washer.

  • You admonished your child because they did something dangerous that could get them hurt.

  • You gave your child a hug and said you love them.

  • You went to work to earn money for your family.

  • You read a book with your child.

  • You watched a show with your child.

  • You listened to your child tell you a joke and laughed with them.

  • You gave a chore to your child to teach them responsibility.

  • You took a quiet moment to yourself so that you could be ready to help your children.

             As we all know, this parenting gig isn’t easy because there is so much that needs to be done both emotionally and physically.  We may feel like we are falling behind on so many things, whether it’s cleaning the house, spending more time with your kids or having some ME time.  You are not the only one who is feeling this way, I promise. After all, we all are our own worst critics. I just want you all to know that you are showing more love for your family than you give yourself credit.  If you noticed, my list isn’t made up of big items. They are just everyday things that we do as we go throughout the day. You don’t need a big grand gesture to show your love. In fact, I feel that it is in the small everyday things that we do that show greater love, especially if you consider that those small and simple things add up after a while.

— The Incredible ElastiMom

3 Replies to “14 Things That You Are Doing to Show Your Kids You Love Them”

  1. I needed this reminder today. Sometimes we get caught up in the comparison game. We forget to slow down and take into account how we are meeting our own children’s needs. Thank you for pointing out how acts of service are also acts of love!

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